Nowadays, we did hear lots of people who get married and get divorced after 2-5 years of marriage. This is just an opinion from me where i think where this is come from. What are the root cause and such.
First, most couples are forced by parents to get marry early when deep down, they are not ready to do so. In another way, they think that they can prevent sex before marriage and other problems and they think they can fix it later.
Second, couple thinks by getting married could change the person. For example from player to loyal, from bad to nice, from evil to holy but they forget, if the person have a will to change,they will change without being asked/told or getting married.
Thirdly, some young adults married with older guys but since they are more mature, they are controlled by the husband/wife and couldnt handle the pressure. Some older partner thinks that their partner should always listen to them as they are older but they forget, world evolves and surroundings change. They should have listen rather than they think they knew everything.
Fourthly, traditional or modern style of bringing in the family. How the husband treat the wife. If the husband can do whatever they like and wife have to stay at home and only out by the permission of husband, may lead to explosion of a woman one day if the woman find out husbanf hv another women outside. For Muslim, usually man always think they have 4quota which woman cant questions but they forget, we have to have a very valid reason to be allowed to marry another three. You must have money, hv to be responsible, accpuntable and fair for all. Fair in the sense of the money monthly, not both gave 400and u think its fair. U should see how many people in your first wife family, and your second etc.
For modern way, husband and wife have a discussion on every things they do. Or even have early vows or promises that the wife can go anywhere w friends they trust nearby without asking permission or at least tell the husband where she wanna go. Do everything together and if you need space, tell each other honestly. Being too honest is not good too but know your partner. Be more like parents other racrs. Learn from them, not judge them by a bad parents or not.
Next issue maybe, unfaithful. This could be they have yet to enjoy their single lives or being player. They forget their limit as husband/wife and cheat. They think by keeping it quiet can helps.
Next, anger. When they are mad,the word Divorce is easily said. Usually husband play a big part. For Muslim, once a husband said 'we shall take a break or we shall separate for a while' its does have a huge problem. Definitely, you are confirm divorce. So guys, make sure that word never exist in your head. Its dangerous.
Lastly, in laws. Here a lot of issue, no blessings from parents, parents in law acting like an pain in the butt or even worst, they controlled everything. They even interfere in their kids's marriage life. They should have not. As a marriage couple, they shall know. Come on, they choose to be in happy n suffer together, why in the world you wanna interfere? Support them emotionally by listening not by pushing them to leave each other and get a new one. Doesnt hel.
For me, this is why parents have to teach their kids to enjoy life but at least to get marry by 30 but enjoy lives. Parents may think this is BS but trust me, if u dont allow your kids to enjoy their life, you know what happen? What i have said above. All of it.
Parents pay a huge part of this. Every marriage do have a problem and as mention, let them handle it. Parents that come from broken family, doesnt mean yours is broken, your kids shall not be happy too. Listen to them more, share the things they shall know. Tell them this is the story of life, its up to you how to handle it but hopefully you will make a roght choice. If your choice is bad, you shall let them.learn. Not scold them saying their stupid. Tell them its a lesson in life and they shall learn from.it. Not to be the firestone.
Well, i think i have type enough. Think about it and see your future, how you want your marriage like. Enjoy life before thinking to ge marry but dont overdo it. It will be disaster too.
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