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Emosi Aidilfitri perempuan 

(Dipetik dari Utusan Malaysia Online) -

BILA menyentuh bab pulang beraya, perempuan jarang mahu mengalah. Ada saja alasan untuk pulang ke kampung sendiri.
Sebenarnya kalau mahu dikira, tiada istilah bergilir seperti yang selalu ditetapkan. Tiada istilah adil dan saksama dalam hal balik kampung ini.
Perempuan menjadi terlalu emosional dalam hal ini. Kadar emosionalnya kalau tak sama pun, mungkin sedikit di bawah paras hal-hal berkaitan berkahwin lagi.
Aidilfitri disambut penuh emosi, sama seperti apabila ada khabar suami mereka menjalin hubungan lain.
Lelaki pula yang tidak mahu berbalah dan penat berhujah, terpaksa akur. Bukan apa, tidak mahu mencemar suasana Aidilfitri. Jika tahun ini, hari raya pertama di kampung isteri, tahun depan jangan terlalu berharap dapat ke kampung suami pula.
Memang isteri patut diberi keutamaan dalam hal balik kampung setelah sebulan pengorbanan sepanjang Ramadan tetapi hargailah juga keluarga, sanak saudara dan rakan-rakan suami di kampung. Mereka juga ada memori meraikan Aidilfitri bersama.
Sepatutnya bila diberi peluang, gunakan sebaik mungkin, tetapi biasanya tidak begitu.
Emosi Aidilfitri mengatasi kelembutan dan kebijaksanaan yang ditunjukkan sepanjang Ramadan yang lalu.
Kalaupun pulang ke kampung suami, semangat sama tidak dikongsi. Hanya suam-suam kuku. Tidak terserlah wajah ceria dan semangat berkobar-kobar mahu pulang beraya bersama keluarga mentua. Baru tinggal sehari dua sudah mengeluh.
Lain apabila di kampung sendiri, berkemas mahu pulang pun ditangguh-tangguh. Patut pulang pagi jadi tengah hari. Patut bawa dua beg jadi tiga beg untuk bawa buah tangan.
Sekadar mengambil contoh, inilah antara yang dialami oleh dua penjawat tinggi kerajaan setiap kali menyambut Aidilfitri.
Seorang berpangkat satu bintang yang menaungi ribuan anggota dan seorang lagi sangat berkuasa di jabatannya.
Tetapi kuasa dan aura di pejabat tidak mampu mengekang emosi Aidilfitri sang isteri. Tahun ini mereka tetap pulang ke kampung isteri, sama seperti tahun lalu.
Kepada perempuan, mereka sentiasa ada alasan. Kepada lelaki, mereka sentiasa mengalah. from nuranilelaki@yahoo.com

Saya rase.... sy sangat sokong! Sy punya ramai saudara mara begini. Alasan - Ibu takde sape nak tolong.. walhal adik beradik ramai perempuan... atau isteri anak sulung, kena beralah...
"Mcm sy, tahun ini balik kg saya dulu sbb dah alang2... keluarga belah suami pula tak tentu balik kampung atau tidak... kerana itulah balik kampung saya dulu... jangan salah sangka ya!" Tahun depan, kalo ibu mertuaku bilang "tak balik batu gajah, so sy balik uma die di Subang then kami pergi ke N9 utk beraya... tak akan balik ke Perak!" kan senang mcm tue... Tapi kalo balik Perak, mungkin tak lama di rumah mertua sbb tahun ini dah almost 4hr di rumah mertua.. cukup2 lah!

What's New with Asam Garam Life After marriage?

Hello everyone! We're back!

Alhamdulilah, it has been 8 months we're both being together and forever... la la laaaa
This is my first time celebrating Ramadhan and Raya as a wife :) and I am loving every minutes of it but I'm tired last Sat and Sun... wanna know why? My mother in law were having an operation last Wednesday 19th Aug 2009, so she came back from hospital on the Friday evening around 6pm like that.. Pity her cuz she cant move that much but she's very energetic... So she ask me and the 1st sis in law to cook. I did ... Masak lemak cili api ikan kembung...

So at nite, I was flat cuz it's tooo tiring.... Then wakeup for Sahur... I saw my 2nd sister in law (who is damn lazy) watching TV while doing some paper cutting which I dont even know what it is for, doing nothing at all for Sahur.. Then my mother in law said "Wawa, pls heat the left overs and cook something like eggs for them..." So I am doing all thing.. you know what my 2nd in law did? she just heard what my mother in law talking to me... giving some direction then she's decided to be nice...

"mamy mamy, nak L buat apa?" hello! You shall do it like since 4.30am just now okay! Then when everybody was awake, I saw one of my bro in laws havnt woke up.. when I asked her... she said "He already ate... so ignore him..." I did.. Till the next day, on Sat evening, I'm helping out again my mother in law to cook Bubur Pedas (sarawakian porridge) you know what my bro in law who I didnt awake him for said, "The heck you guys never even knock on my door.. I didnt ate a thing..." Damn! Stupid L! Damn lazy.. I wouldnt ask her anything anymore man! Damn lazy! She's damn afraid I asked her to awake my brother in law, so she said "he's eaten already.." I would have gone to wake him myself.. Damn lazy!

Then the next day, I decided, I will wake up damn late for her to do work.. but then Allah just wanna test me... my mother in law cant sleep and she's do all the working.. and you know what she ( the sis in law) did? NOTHING! Didnt help anything at all! Doesnt she got any feeling that my in law is DAMN SICK?! I though I was the most laziest person on the earth but she's ten time worst than I am! Even to fried the damn egg she's waiting for my mother in law to do it!! Damn ~!@#$$%^&*()_++_)((&^$# Damn!

On Sunday, I was damn tired. After I send my hubby to work, I do house chores after I saw my mom in law sweeping the floor.. I offered my hand cuz while she was doing it, she said "sakitnya.. sakitnya.." so I dont wanna make her more sakit and being scold by my big brother in Law so I sweep... Imagine ya... only living room... I got the like full of the shovel (penyodok)! How dirty... My mother in law was saying "its been a week im not around and no body does anything..." Damn! Make me more pissed! WHAT'S THE USE OF HAVING A WOMAN TO LESSEN THE BURDEN OF MY MOTHER IN LAW THAN HAVING NONE? I rather she never existed... She's damn pemalas!!!

Then, I went to groceries shopping with my mother in law til about 4pm, then quickly get back home to cook Laksa Penang... my body was shouting..."rest! rest! rest! It's Sunday and you shall rest!"... But how could I rest? After cooking, only she came back from work... and you know what? She just went to kitchen and said "Wow! Laksa! Sedap! She supposed to be back at home 5... but never be home... she came around 6.30.. with the excuse of "going to bazaar ramadhan.." Hello! If you are damn lazy, just fckn said it.. I wonder how the 4 days without me in the house.. poor mother in law... if she had to do the cooking and cleaning... I think I have to find some mechanism to help her.. Or even scold that stupid woman! Damn.. she complaint before when we went to one of our aunties house in Perak and said "oh gosh! damn dirty!" but I bet, she's worst.. cuz mother in law told me her house back in t'ganu is as worst as the aunty's house...

Problem is, she's a Scorpio... born in 1982... have almost similar name as me (wati at the back) and have almost the same surname (mohammad) but her attitude is pissing me off. She humiliate the Scorpions man! Serious sheet! People said Im cruel.. but I think she's even more cruel.. My mother in law once scolded her but she only changed a bit... but then she kept continue doing the same as before.. My MIL has tired of speaking and the husband also is the sensitive type... once my MIL scolded her, the husband said "if u hate us, we will go.. But u have to remember, I gave you more money than everyone else!!" The heck!? U think money can solve? I dont wanna imagine if my MIL was gone, I think the house will never be a house anymore.. Trust me! I can see the vision.. She's the type my mother in law called "pompuan x makan saman!" where she dont bother about things...

Girls, if you are staying over people's house especially in laws, you shall never be lazy or be urself... I know its better being real than hypocrite but as a person who has grown up, FOR GOD SAKE! Be a human! You are married, you supposed to be showing the good thing/attitudes in front of your in laws... n the husband must be aware that your wife is lazy! Scold your wife! Not because your wife is damn fierce, you decide, let her be! I bet you, your marriage wont last as you as a guy one day suddenly will meet with a lady who are damn light handed and you regret having a lazy wife!!
Open up your freaking eyes man! If you are staying in your god damn house, you can be whatever u like.. but dont be such a lazy bum bum if you are at your in laws man.. Even if ur mother in law said "oo dont bother..just watched the tv..." Insist to do! Dont make her do things.. she supposed to be relax man! Not doing works for you!

Hah! I have to calm down... Deep breath...

What's New with Me, Shazawati?

I just finish eating lunch at Armada Hotel, PJ. Quite delicious! Yummy! I dont have pics that much as they are all aunties that doesnt took photos that much and does really pose. Hm.. I guess people who are born in 1970's are not that fun ya! But its weird my sister can do so much stupid stuff hahah Maybe my sisters are the coolest one...Or maybe I dont know...

Btw... talking about me, hmm me and husband are doing great great great! Yay! But one thing we could not being great of... about surroundings and financial! Let me tell you something ya..

Friends and relatives are totally dont understand our situation. Especially when they know what are you doing now, or they confused about what are you doing now or they dont bother to know or they know but they pretend to ignore about it. What am I talking about, I am sure everyone are wondering right?

First, what am I doing now? Who? Shazawati of course! I am working full time 8.30am-5.30pm Secretary at one place then every 2nd and 4th weekends (sunday or saturday), I got classes to attend. So what does this mean? I am a Part Timer Student and a Full time Secretary! At night everyday, I will be a good wife where I will pick up my husband at his work place everyday 10pm and will cook for him and waiting for him to finish eating and all.

What is my husband's job? My husband work as Commis at Nacho's Nacho's in Shah Alam. He work sometimes starts at 9am, 10am, 11am, 12pm or 1pm up to 10pm and he cant actually get some leaves on Saturday or Sunday or Public Holiday. So usually, I am going to go anywhere with some other people, or being single all the time.

I am glad people do think I'm not married yet, yeah! Of course, Im still not pregnant and still not that old and every body thoughts that I'm easy to tackle.. Once you get me, you will be sorry for the rest of your life! Hahah Yeah, I maybe romantic but somehow, only My husband knows it! Quite pity him though but what to do? Anger management class? Hmm I dont know...

Why is it related to my relatives and friends? Yeah! Since they are confused with what am I doing now, they always asked this question... "It's been quite a while... anything?", or "Why on earth you are not pregnant yet?", or "Infertile?"... Hello!! Doesnt mean you are married, you need to be pregnant as soon as you are making love right? For those who are quite impatient, yeah, you will get pregnant within 2 months after you're married..but not everybody are that lucky!

You dont have to ask that q! I have 2-3 friends who are married, they are still not being pregnant and event 2 years ahead from me, she still not pregnant... but I know there is some pressure around her.. Poor you dear! I know how you feel!

I got some reasons why I dont get pregnant yet! 1st of all, I am studying and doing my Bachelor which I think its totally stressful and challenging. I heard that stress woman or exhausted woman cant get pregnant. If I am announced pregnant, maybe 2-3 months after that, I will miscarriage because of the stress... So! What's the point getting pregnant? Besides, I'm the last minute person.. so after having kids, I wouldnt have time to study at all and I dont wanna burden my husband to take care of my baby...

Second reason, I'm searchin for tips on getting pregnant on twins. Some people said I shall take a pill then when I'm ready, chances to get twins is high but problem is, I hate eating pills... It could also makes you cant get pregnant at all.. hmm DILEMMA! Why twins? If i got a pair, it will be a good good one! but if i have both one gender, then I have to just Thanks to God! At least I only pregnant once wuuuhuuu!!

One more things that bothering me is going to any occassions, events without my husband around.. Yes yes! Once you married, your husband must follow you or you must follow where ever your husband is going.. But unfortunately, my husband cant come! He's working especially weekends... or weekdays he can only make it after 10pm.. so if you want him to come, the only way, do your reception at night after 10pm, whatever it is, after 10pm! I'm sure no one wanna do that right? So better keep quiet!

Some people also said this to me, "y dont u ask ur husband to work only on weekdays?"... Hello! He's working in a restaurant... not in the office! then some voices also heard, "work in the hotel la! why working in the restaurant?!".. You think we dont asked people around? We did ask.. one of his friends work at the Palma Inn Cafe as a chef told us this "You will be in Hell Kitchen once you are in the kitchen line of the hotel". Sometimes no holidays for the whole week, obviously NO OFF on Weekends, sleeps in the kitchen for 2-4 days if there is an event and NO Leave Application is available...

So... which one is worst? Restaurant or Hotel? In the restaurant, the owner promises my husband to give 6 month probation and raise salary. Plus, everyday must have 2-3 hours over time... Some voices also said that "why dont ask your husband to work in the office?"... He cant.. He loves cooking... He work in the office before.. ended up being scold 24hrs because he dont know what he's doing and everyday checking out new recipes from the net instead of doing work! Yeah! Lame but he's passion is there.

I support whatever he likes and I dont damn care if he got less salary.. Im not the 'pushing' button types... whatever it is, we will try to save a bit by bit. InsyaAllah if Allah takes our prayers totally... We will try to involved with business. Maybe I might be the next multi-million dollar woman! Who knows right? Haha (Ya Allah! Perkenankanlah!)

But one thing I dont like people saying this... "Dont hold on your pregnancy... you will never get pregnant...". Okay, yes I do heard people sayin this...but I think Allah knows whats happening to me. I do want to get pregnant! Seriously do! But I have some mental problem.. so I need to take care of it.. besides Now im having tooth ache and back ache.. makes me quite phobia to have kids at the moments... Besides, our sex is not like what you guys thinks.. Yes! I am dirty minded but hey... being exhausted and tired could make you not interested in sex but usually.. when I want, he's tired...when he wanted it, Im tired.. so!

Anyway... I am so tired to think now... I will continue what I wanna say later... Daaa!

ps: im having bad toothache which I believe my wisdom tooth are tryin to come out.. damn u!